Our band of [32] brothers.



bertram[1]
gerald[2]
ferris[3]
aaron[4]
wei jing[5]
jun kai[6]
hou shun[7]
jonathan[8]
jun kiat[9]
jie han[10]
winston[11]
aden[12]
me[13]
daryll[14]
hong run[15]
sam[16]
alfred[17]
bin hao[18]
wen shan[19]
cto[20]
bay[21]
yu xuan[22]
ben oh[23]
jun yan[24]
wei long[25]
cheng xi[26]
yi sheng[27]
yit khai[28]
jaron[29]
zi tao[30]
ren jie[31]
elffred[32]

Part D'08 :D

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Friday, September 12, 2008

Ever encountered a situation when you meet 2 friends who dont know each other at the same time right?
who would you talk to? who would be the one you would walk with? there're so many questions and so many decisions to make in such a short time when you see your friends. but in short,
What would you do?

of course you know that the best thing is either:

helping to introduce themselves to each other luh. but usually you don't do that. unless you can be super thick skinned and your friends are interested to know each other. it's usually that kind of best case scenario situation which you see on tv serials (if you don't watch then too bad =P)
or if one of your friends are despo people and the other is one of the opposite gender

or you can talk to both of them at the same time and let the interaction session let them get familiarized with each other.

or maybe if they are both kind of i-dont-want-to-have-anything-to-do-with-the-other-person, den just maybe alternate and talk to both lor. sounds like 一脚踏两船 but then no choice mah not nice to dao the other person.

somtimes one of your friends will just walk away to save you the embarassment when you start talking to the other if your friend sees you. that's what i do most of the time. if not just wait for them to finish their conversation lor. that's if they haven't realized you yet luh. but that isnt the best thing to do exactly -.-" sounds rather anti-social.

Actually my point is, thats one thing about having such a large social circle. if you're really the type who treasures your friendships, you will want to maintain a nice relationship with all your friends. but the problem comes when you realize you don't have enough time to offer your attention and concern to the friends who're talking to you. sometimes you've to ignore one of your friends, and thats when the biggest question comes.
Who do you treasure more? Friend A or friend B?

Or rather, the thing i've been thinking about when i wrote this post was:
Friends
- good, better, best
- old and new.

"Good better best
Never let it rest
Let the good become better
And the better become best."
Ever heard of this? LOL its some stupid rhyme i remember from kindergarten times. Teaching about constantly improving yourself =D

Think about it. I'll post more on another day. Now need to do hw -.-"

But one thing i can say for sure:
Showing love and care for your friends is one core principle in friendship. Reciprocating the love and care that your friends have shown you is another core principle of friendship. Like what aaron said last time on his blog:

(Editted - my interpretation)
'You have a conflict with someone. You discuss things with people. When "with" is used, it refers to interaction between both sides. Both sides are listening to each other and giving back. Its a mutual thing.
But when you talk to someone, 'to' is used. Its a one-sided thing. Talking to someone doesn't mean he is replying.'

You are friends with people. You can be friends to people too! In English its correct but both sentences have different meanings. The first one, if you understand what's mentioned above, when you use 'with', it means together. A two-sided friendship.

But, when you say, im a friend to junan, it only means junan views me as a friend. it doesnt mean i view junan as a friend. the part on "junan is a friend to me too" must be included. Then the feeling of friendship is mutual.

The important thing here to note is not that im a good word analyzer (therefore i will perform well for SRQ cos i can analyze the author's diction to determine whether emotive language is used so that i can say his argument is biased). The idea here is: Treat your friend like with care and affection, and show your appreciation in return when your friends show their love and care for you.

And that's what a friendship is. A relationship is built based on interaction between people. there's nothing such as 一相情愿 one. or simply demanding the other party to give you the care and concern you desire.

And that's why im truly wondering how i got the misconceptions in my other post. friends who dao you, be it occasionally or frequently (to fucking hell with those people who dao totally -.-")
if you're that desperate for a reply from your friends, though they're not right to ignore you sometimes, you're WRONG to assume that they don't treasure this friendship.

because there can be so many reasons why they're not replying you! people are people, not things like smarterchild on msn that can give a reply whenever you talk to them. they aren't things like soft toys who'll hug you whenever you want a hug.
but if really don't bother to reply at all, ah. then they dont deserve to be friends.

and be glad you know you have true friends who really care for you inside.

they don't always show their care for you directly or blatantly because everyone has some sense of propriety and self-awareness. but know that there're 1,2,4,8,16,32,64,128,256,512,1024 and increasing number of people in your life who'll offer you the comfort and care you need when you go to them, or when they know you need help.

so in the end i didnt end my post above huh =.=

Only a life lived for others is worth living~
Albert Einstein, '~' from me

Endured till 2:27 AM

With my rifle and my brothers and me~

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